Leading by Example: The Most Powerful Lesson Adults Give Children

Kristijan Musek Lešnik
Nov 8, 2025
2 min read

Updated: Nov 26, 2025

Children and youth imitate adult behavior. If we model calm, empathy, responsibility, and service, this is what they learn and imitate. From keeping promises to discussing world events with integrity, we (and our actions) shape who they will become.

“The importance of role models? Advice matters, but example transforms.”

The most important thing adults can give children is the one we sometimes most easily forget: our example.

We in our roles of parents, teachers, coaches, or principals, can tell them things — some will be remembered, a few will touch their hearts. But above all else, children and youth will always imitate us. They will copy our habits, choices, and actions — the good ones and the bad ones.

They Learn from Who We Are, Not What We Say

Whether our children and teenagers will live in a healthy, caring society tomorrow depends in part on them — and also on what we choose to do today.

What Can I Do as a Teacher — as a Role Model?

If we know they imitate us, let’s give them something worth imitating. Let’s be the role models they deserve.

Being a role model doesn’t require perfection. It requires authenticity, integrity, and presence — living the values we want young people to learn.

Ways to embody the role:

Approach challenges calmly and invite independent thinking.
Show empathy — name and respect feelings (sad, angry, disappointed, proud).
Focus attention on what’s working as well as on what needs more work.
Keep promises and follow through.
Speak as a caring adult, not a peer seeking approval.
Care for your own health and balance; model boundaries and rest.
Engage in community/volunteer projects with students when possible.
Respect through appearance and manners; model civility.
Make time so no one feels unseen — brief, genuine check-ins matter.
Discuss real-world issues thoughtfully and age-appropriately.
Celebrate effort and growth (not perfection) to normalize learning.

The Power of Example

Children watch us all the time.

They learn how to treat others by how we treat them.

They learn honesty when they see us keep our word.

They learn respect when they feel respected.

They learn empathy when we show it — not just when we talk about it.

Our actions are louder than any lesson plan. The most powerful lesson we give is the one we live every day.

Reflection

Children don’t need perfect adults. They need real adults — who try, who care, who take responsibility, who keep learning. Our words may guide them for a moment. Our example guides them for a lifetime.

“Here’s how kindness looks.”

“Here’s what integrity feels like.”

“Here’s how to live with courage and care.”

The world our children will create tomorrow begins with how we live today.